Post by: @JaxRules
“My mates keep telling me to skip class with them. I don’t want to, but I also don’t want to look lame. How do I say no without losing my friends?”
Kia ora Jax.
I have read your post and i can see you’re having trouble trying to decide what to do in your situation.
Here is some advice I have for you. I know that saying no is hard to do, especially if your friends are peer-pressuring you. I also have trouble saying no to my own friends sometimes, so I understand how you feel.
I think you should be confident and you should stand up for yourself. I know that’s hard because there is the chance your mates might think you’re lame and you might lose them. But if your friends were good for you, they wouldn’t be pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do. You don’t have to bunk with them, be brave and say no.
You can have a conversation with your mates and tell them how you feel about this and what you want to do instead of bunking with them. If they don’t respect how you feel, then I suggest you find yourself some new friends. Even though this is hard, do what´s best for yourself and be strong.
The below grid is taking informal language and rewriting it so it is formal.
| That sucks but you should just get over |
That’s unfortunate, and I understand that it is hard to get over. Take your time and do what you think is right. |
| I hear ya but it is what it is |
I hear you and I understand, but you can change the outcome. Be confident. |
| I get you’re upset but there’s probably not a lot you can do about it. |
I know you’re upset and that’s okay, you can do a lot and you can change what happens. |
| You can’t make someone like you, just move on. |
Not everyone is going to like you, but that’s okay. What matters most is if you like yourself. |
| If you don’t want people to judge you then don’t post on social media. |
People are gonna judge no matter what, the best thing you can do is ignore the negative comments and keep your head up high. |